Going Against The Grain | We Play By A Different Set Of Rules.


It seems like our lives have been set up in many ways.  Have you ever wanted to play by a different set of rules and have some adventure?  It’s like going against the grain!  The saying came from “the fact that someone who rubs his hand against the grain on a piece of lumber will get splinters.”


What rules am I talking about?  


The basic rules of going to school, getting married, having kids, getting a good job, working hard, and retiring on social security.   Being stuck day after day doing the same thing and escaping only for the weekends.


Isn’t that what most of society is doing?  


[tweet_box design=”default”]Playing by a different set of rules is not being illegal.  It actually living.   It’s being free too have a life that you enjoy not worrying about debt and others struggles.  [/tweet_box]



I have found a way to stop playing by the rules. I am going against the grain and seeing what life can be like.  I freed myself when I found a blueprint to making more money in a different way.



How I started to Play by a Different Set of Rules


I am a married mother of two wonderful children.  I moved myself up the corporate ladder with that job, like a lot of others.  But I always thought there had to be something else.  I ran wild trying to keep up with school functions, making sure they had the things in their lives that would end them in the circle too.  


It was the way it was supposed to be , or I was always told, it was keeping straight and not against the grain.  I didn’t want to make waves.  It was playing by the rules.   


As times went on and the stress of this circle got tighter.  I started to look at what was around me, where I had been and what I had. I found myself stuck.    


Oh don’t get me wrong.  I was an Executive Office.  Had two kids who had graduated from college, and we owned our own home.  Retirement was around the corner.   Isn’t that playing by the rules?


But, what I found was a job that couldn’t see me for my true potential, you can only advance so far, yet looking for another was like starting all over.  It was following the rules.


The house was falling apart and outdated.  We just needed to move or tear it down and start over.


And we had the debt and bills of life to cover.


I was screaming inside.  


I didn’t want to play by the rules anymore!  I needed to go against the grain and make some changes.



I just knew there was a way to be free, but how was I going to find it.  Being where I was, I knew I had to find a new way to make money and not have to start over.


Playing by a different set of rules changed things up.  But why do we need to follow rules?



Why are rules important?


Rules must be obeyed for legal purposes and accountability.

 Obeying rules also promotes trust and fairness.

 Rules are tools to get things accomplished.

Complying with federal and state laws helps companies avoid legal trouble from authorities and disgruntled employees who may commence legal action.

Instilling safety policies protects workers and lowers health insurance costs

Rules play a role in projecting a positive image for the company

Laws that protect people against violent crime and property offenses.

The Parental Principle includes laws restricting people from harming themselves and others.

Other laws safeguard religious freedom and corporate institutions.

There are also laws that protect the state against treason and espionage.



Here is more on how I went against the grain and found a different set of rules.

Different Set Of Rules

The other day when we went to a great restaurant it got me thinking about this and why it is good to play against the rules once in awhile.  I watched while my Husband and Daughter got their meal served right on the table.   Yes,   right on the table.  They dove in up to their elbows to get these tasty treats.  


What I realized was how much fun they were having,  how much enjoyment they got when they didn’t have to use the utensils and plates.  The were playing by a different set of rules.


It was the best time they have had.



In our society today, people do get stuck.  They follow the groove of their parents or someone they see. Remember being asked as little ones, what do you want to be when you grow up?  Right?  


I wanted to be a designer!   I ended up an accountant.   Now how is that for following.


What did I do to change that?


I found eight commitments that set me on a track to success.


I found a new set of rules.  


I found a blueprint to freedom.  To live the life I choose, the life I create, and I have control over.   


What has that given me?  


Live is now a fresh start without starting over.  Life is full of adventure.  Life can be rich beyond your wildest dreams.   No more wishing and hoping.  It’s wanting and going after.


Why do you start something new?  


Is it a journey, an adventure, a business, a way to increase your nest egg, or just a way to live?


So, Why do you start something?


Is it what you have been told to do, or are you following the footsteps of someone else?


Have you ever thought about what you could do if you were free to really do what you want?  


What dreams do you have or is there a cause that you want to help?


Are there others that could benefit also?  


What would you do if you could play against the rules? or create a different set?




If I have got you thinking of going against the grain and setting up a different set of rules, but just don’t know how, and want to see my blueprint just click here.  See where my shortcut and blueprint can lead you.  Be free, click the button.

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15 thoughts on “Going Against The Grain | We Play By A Different Set Of Rules.

  1. Hi Sandy 🙂

    Fantastic share and post! Yes, I have always “not” played by the rules lol I have always wanted to do my own thing, my entire life I have done what society says I should be doing, got married, had 2 kids and had a few jobs over the years, but never felt “happy” or like I was supposed to be where I was……so like you, I made some changes and am not exactly where I want to be yet, but I am on my way!

    Thanks for sharing how you stopped playing by society’s rules and made your own just to be happy!

    Best of luck to you in your life! Being happy and debt free and having that freedom to do what you want to do is what it is all about 🙂

    1. Joan, by the way if you don’t mind me asking? What is it that you are looking for? I might have a few answers. I can share with you what I found.

  2. Hi Sandy,

    I think it’s very important to follow your dreams and discover your passion.
    Unfortunately, as you’ve pointed out, we’re taught different things when we’re growing up.

    It seems normal – and right to grab that job security. This is what “success” looks like to most of us. We realize later on that we aren’t happy with this – and have no clue as to who we really are.

    I’m glad for your sake that you’ve found something you’re passionate about and went for it. I see more people doing this as time goes on.

    Great message.

    1. Thanks Dana, I hope you too find what you are looking for. I wasn’t sure when I set out, but I found a mentor and wow, a world of difference. If you join me I can bring you in to our group with all the training to help you too find what you need to be successful.

  3. Going against the grain and not playing by the rules can definitely be challenging. It’s easier when you have people that support you and your dreams. As a young woman, I chose to continue to follow my passion of dance, while everyone else was getting a corporate job. Luckily, I had the support of my loved ones. Now, I stay at home with my kids, and have found a new passion in writing. I’m hoping to continue on this path once they go to school, and not go back to work.

    1. Shann, good for you. Do you do much Dancing? Did you know your blog can be all about dancing. I have seen many bloggers make a lot of money with different passions, from art to guitar playing, in photography, exercise. It doesn’t all have to be writing. Some just read books. Our industry is definitely one of a kind.

  4. what a great post! I’ve always firmly believed in marching to the beat of your own drum or as I like to say “keep on doing you” and do what will make YOU happy!

  5. Hi Sandy,

    Nice post and a great insight of rules made by our society that “WE” have to follow them like a dumb person without applying our brain, – what is right or wrong?

    As a person, I have always tried to follow my dreams and live my passion. Though Kudos to my parents for being so supportive with my wild ideas. I have left 4 jobs and changed my careers from becoming a doctor to engineer and then leaving a white collar job in a multi national company and moving to another continent, a new country. I just followed my heart as wanted to expand my horizon. Let’s see where life will take me but I am ready to face it! 🙂

    1. A free spirit. I am seeing so many more doing just that. I have been bitten by the Entrepreneur Bug and never want to go back. Life is so much more fun.

  6. Yes going against the grain is the best way to do life. I homeschool and do many things that might not be as popular. I think a person who does things differently has to not care what others say or think. This I think is why I homeschool and blog. I know that I love what I do and know that I will see benefits in the future. 🙂

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